CW: suicide, suicide loss, systemic failures, mental health One of the most painful things about losing someone to suicide isn't just the loss itself. It's the way the world talks about it afterward. They took the easy way out. It was selfish. They must not have been strong enough. I've heard all of these — sometimes from strangers, sometimes from people who should have known better. And every time, I want to ask (and have started poking, gently): Do you have any idea what yo